Saturday, October 31, 2009

Happy Halloween!!!

The long awaited, much postponed, annual pumpkin carving party finally happened Friday night. I believe a good time was had by all. Pumpkins were carved, and then carved some more. Stew and mummy wraps were eaten. Some candy might have been consumed and, all-in-all, Halloween was celebrated beautifully.

(My mother's pumpkin in honor of her beloved Yankees - GO, YANKEES!!!)

Thursday, October 29, 2009


I read on MckMama's blog, the other day when she poured out her heart, a very wise comment. Her post was bravely about the struggles in her marriage and the steps she and Prince Charming are going through to get through the rough patches. She has always been honest and forthcoming about their ups and downs and I admire their faith and love of one another. What she said that caught me cold was:

As it relates to human forgiveness, forgiveness is for the forgiver, not for the forgiven.

I have had her statement rolling around in my head for a few days, can't stop thinking about it really. Made it my Facebook status, Twitter status, and it is on the chalkboard in the kitchen where I usually write my grocery list. I, like MckMama, thought that forgiveness was a gift to be bestowed on others, something you could withhold as a sort of punishment to let the guilty party know that they were still in trouble. You are not off the hook with me until I have forgiven you, so you better keep sucking up. This practice only works if the person who you think needs your forgiveness truly desires your forgiveness. And that is what I have been doing all wrong. The more I think about it, the more I realize how right she is. Looking back, I have always felt better when I have forgiven someone wholly and for the right reason and not just to "let them off the hook." How, when I forgive someone who I believe has wronged me simply because it is the right thing to do, I have often felt empty and bitter. Does this fall into the category of being the better person? Am I the better person if I forgive someone just to make myself feel better? When I forgive someone with my whole heart, aren't we both healed? Maybe forgiveness isn't what that person was seeking, but by giving it to them, I have found something in myself. Forgiveness in this way, with your whole heart and only for you is harder than doing it the other way. But, if I can do it right, it can be so much better.

There is a reason God has kept this in my head this week. I believe He thinks I may need to work on my forgiveness skills. At this time in my life, I have few things that I need to forgive for myself and maybe why it was sent to me now. I can work on forgiving for me when it is a bit easier and when the hard stuff comes along, I will be a pro. I can forgive myself for getting angry when the toothpaste top is left off or when the socks are on the floor. I can forgive myself for getting my feelings hurt when someone doesn't return my call or criticizes my choices. I can practice my forgiveness until it becomes second nature. And then I will be able to forgive others for myself.

Thanks, MckMama and God...sometimes I need a nudge.
***Continue to pray for sweet Stellan, his SVT is back with a vengence.

Wednesday, October 28, 2009


Pray for this sweet baby, he is not doing well...

Sunday, October 25, 2009

Oink, oink...

Today would have been the perfect day for the Cheezes' annual Pumpkin Carving Party.

Beautiful, blustery autumn day,

huge pumpkins with cool stems at the pumpkin patch,

perfect weather for eating soup,

and mummy wraps.

However, this is how we are spending our day...

(Poor Bubba)

Don't worry...the carving will go on. Just a little later than expected. Feel better soon, Bubba! (not Sneezer!)

Saturday, October 24, 2009

One of my biggest fans

So I have been told that I need to pick up the dad misses it. Isn't that sweet? He has always been one of my biggest fans.

I have been so preoccupied with school starting for BoyBoy and my new venture that coming up with blog fodder has been on the back burner. So, G-dad has given me the poke in the rear that I needed to get back on my blogging horse.

I can't promise that I will always be witty, thought-provoking, snarky, or just plain babbling but I can promise that I will make time for this blog. I may only post once or twice a week but, in the words of Arnold, "I'll be back!"

Tuesday, October 20, 2009

New post up over here...still a work in progress.

BTW, April's DH had a small heart attack today...please keep them in your prayers.

Wednesday, October 7, 2009


OK, I have been absent from here for a while now and a lot of you, some of you, one of you has thoughtfully asked where I have been. I have started a new venture and it has taken up a huge chunk of my time and energy.

Wheezer is proud to announce.....(fanfare, drum roll, etc.)

Check it out! I have started my own photography business! I have always loved taking pictures and after tons, many, a few people telling me that I was good, I took the plunge and launched my business in August. I have had a few clients and hope that, with some creative marketing, and word of mouth, my new baby will take off. BoyBoy is my webmaster; Bubba, my biggest cheerleader.

I have created a photography blog and with the help of April, I hope to have that up and running soon. As soon as it is camera ready, I will come back and share the link with you all! I hope you will follow me there!